Sweet Surrender

Jun 3, 2010 by

Sweet Surrender

You know the moment.  That moment when you stop fighting.  Stop the resistance to a natural phenomenon.  The moment when you let go and just give in.  That moment when you stop trying to control everything you can’t control and just surrender to the experience?

When you stop trying to control tomorrow and surrender to the moment.

Read that line again.  It’s important … probably because it is more true than either you or I would like to admit.

We’ve all felt it in one way or another. It happens in sports and physical activities all the time. You can’t control where the golf ball goes once you’ve hit it.  Hell you can’t even control where the golf ball is going to go BEFORE you hit it. The only thing you can do is be in the moment.  Practice your swing without be massively focused on what your doing right and wrong.  And then just swing.  If you’re in your head when you swing on the course … when you haven’t surrendered to the physics of the moment … well you know … the golf ball is all over the place.

I do some of the more non-traditional sports, like Jiu Jitsu, Archery and I experience this almost daily.  When I’m trying too hard, when I’m worried about winning the match or hitting the bullseye (trying to control the outcome), when I’m not surrendering to the moment, I’m brittle, stiff, and usually end up missing the target completely or losing the round.

Why is surrendering so hard?  Surrendering to a physical event; Surrendering to another person (especially if that person is not “supposed” to have control by society’s standards … such as your kids); Surrendering to a force larger than you.  Are we so tied to control because it is too scary to let go just in case something happens we’re not ready for? But isn’t that control an illusion?

So here’s my question: “When was the last time you truly surrendered, if only for a moment?”  Gave up your illusionary control and melted into the moment?  Do you remember?  Wasn’t it an amazing experience?  Can you be more conscious in yourself and find another moment to surrender to?

I guess I’d like to surrender more to the stuff I can’t control and just experience it.  And if I can do that just a bit more every day, maybe I’ll experience the euphoria of sweet surrender more often.

See you on the wire

— Steven Cardinale

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